As empaths, lightworkers and healers we see the good in everyone. We “see people as God would”
as perfect light beings, deserving of love, healing and hope.We often think that we can heal this person, we can give this person the thing that they’ve never had. This will often leave us in a situation where we are giving these people especially the people that we are in a relationship all of our energy, attention and time.
It was a big blow and shock after many hard falls or drainage and pain to find this out…..
JUST AS WE ARE BORN AS FEELERS, INTUITIVES, AND EMPATHS THERE ARE PEOPLE THAT ARE BORN WITH THE EXACT OPPOSITE.
How can it be that there are people out there that actually want to take advantage of people?
This is something that we would never do we CANNOT fathom someone having the heart
to do this, however it is a brutal and cold truth that we have to accept if we want to be successful in our work. People don't have to kill a baby to cause true harm, harm can be covert and passive and all too familiar. “There’s a certain amount of love that a toxic person can take before becoming mean or nasty. They’ve met their limit when they have started criticizing or being negative."
Here is an example on a good time to set a boundary shared in Christiane Northrup's book Dodging Energy Vampires:
You’re speaking to your mom, you tell her all the wonderful things that are happening and after 30 mins of great conversations she shifts the attention to negative things about you or starts to criticize your hair.
That is your que to “get out now”.
You: I noticed that you started to react critically so I’m leaving
Say this with NO EMOTION. Do not cry, beg or EXPECT to have your feelings validated.
You will also have to be okay with the fact that they will not like it. This is your boundary.